offerings | a death occurrence
a death occurrence
death is not an ending, but a doorway
let's walk through
initial call
i'm very glad you’re here, so let’s find out why
in this 30 minute call we will discuss your personal situation so I can learn more about your current relationship with death, whether it involves you or your loved one, and what called you to reach out to me. my goal is to understand your needs and wishes, and answer any questions you may have. with careful consideration, I will suggest an offering or package of offerings below, curated to fit your specific occurrence and where you find yourself. if you already have an offering in mind, we'll start on the journey
why are you here and where are you going?
life in careful consideration | acknowledging death
about this reading:
Where are you now, where have you been, and where do you hope to go from here?
Together we will thoughtfully discuss your path - past, present, and future - and create a candid view of your story. This honest assessment will allow for deep consideration and planning of your life goals - both achieved and envisioned - on a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual level, and will empower you to live fully all the way up to death. Moreover, we will discuss death and the myriad options around it to remove the fear that it commonly brings, and empower you to face it head on, eyes open. Normalizing death and preparing for it removes the stigma around what is ultimately inevitable, and will allow you to embrace it with ease. Together we will develop a plan for the end of your life - and everything in between now and then.
offering includes:
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A two hour focused discussion around your path in life so far, where we deeply consider your wishes for your life and for your death
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Counsel and coaching / advice on accessible ways to achieve your living goals
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Education and advice on options for death and dying that consider and respect your values and belief systems
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A comprehensive written road map / plan for fulfillment of life goals that aligns with your time, energy, and resources
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Outline of death plan / wishes for dying to provide support and comfort, which can be shared with your loved ones
how are you getting there and what are you wearing?
planning for death | advocacy in dying
about this reading:
If you or your loved one is terminally ill, you may feel overwhelmed at all that is to come, here and beyond. This offering is intended to support and empower the dying through the dying process so they are prepared and at ease before and during the transition. Through compassionate and thoughtful conversation to understand the dying person's wishes, I will educate and guide them towards their best options for death and empower them to choose what they believe will bring them peace. I will advocate for their wishes with their family and other supportive people involved in their care and most importantly, provide the dying and their family with heartfelt support. Should the dying person be unable to communicate, I will work directly with the family to provide this offering on the dying person’s behalf.
offering includes:
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A one hour focused discussion around the dying person’s thoughts, fears, and desires for how they wish to die
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Compassionate counsel and support to address and ease fear, and find peace
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Comprehensive death plan including desires for death with reverence to the dying person's belief system
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Advocacy of death plan / communication and distribution of death plan to all those providing support and care to they dying, uniting together in love around the dying
a tether to the liminal
a loved one lost | remembrance
about this reading:
Losing a loved one, whether they are human or animal, always leaves us searching. For words, for one more moment together, for stable ground, for a way to move through this life without them. While our life continues on, it is irrevocably changed. With the hard, fast pace of the world around us, we often feel as if the one we’ve lost is quickly forgotten. This offering provides a way to remember and honor them, incorporating their memory into the life you are still living. Through meaningful conversation, we will explore your loss with reverence, and discover how you can honor the spirit / energy of your lost loved one in ways that align with your values and belief system.
offering includes:
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A one hour remembrance of the one you’ve lost, allowing them to come alive through guided and intentional conversation
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A review of your current schedule and practices, exploring your current relationship and feelings/beliefs toward death
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Comprehensive remembrance plan featuring personalized rituals / activities that align with your values and belief systems
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Outline of suggested schedule and required supplies so you feel empowered and supported through the transition that loss brings
standalone offerings
legacy projects - a gift from the dying to those who remain living
How would you like to be remembered? What do you want to leave behind for those who knew you well, and what content will you leave for them when they recall stories of you for those you’ve never met? Legacy projects allow us to thoughtfully and intentionally provide for our loved ones long after we are gone. Whether a simple card or note, a montage of photos, or an assembly of physical items, preparing a legacy project is a deeply meaningful undertaking. However close death may ultimately be, it is never too soon to prepare for what visits us all. enabling the person to consider the whole of their life so far.
This offering includes:
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A one hour session focusing on understanding the scope of recipients and projects you envision, idea generation, and consultation around execution
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Personalized list of recipients and detailed description of the unique legacy projects desired for each, all accessible and aligned with your resources, ready for curation
vigils - curating the space for transition
A sacred tool to honor the transition from life to death, vigils have been practiced around the world for millennia. Held for those in the active dying phase, vigils are a powerful way to create and hold a space of peace and ease. Together we will discuss the circumstances of how death is finding you, and explore ways in which we can lift the spirit / energy of your loved one through the dying process
This offering includes:
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A one hour session focused on understanding the dying person’s specific situation, their preferences and beliefs, and your wishes for the vigil including scope, length, participants, and any specific inclusions
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Holistic plan for holding a vigil including sound, light, touch, scent, and other specific curated activities that honor and respect the dying, their beliefs, and the physical space in which they will pass
rituals - moments for memories
Simple acts of remembrance folded into daily life, rituals are small ceremonies that hold deep significance. They need not be elaborate nor complex, nor religious in nature. The heart of ritual is an act of devotion, performed with repetition, that offers the participant a moment where the memory of their lost loved one can live again. Folded into everyday life, practicing ritual can provide profound peace and calm - a place to rest and recall love.
This offering includes:
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A one hour session detailing your current schedule including your current practices, commitments, and resources, along with any items or specific activities you would like to include in your ritual practice
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Instructions describing 2 - 3 uniquely curated rituals, including details of the time frame, materials, and intentions to be included so you can incorporate all or some of them into your life in a manner that best serves you